I’m a big believer in ongoing learning. To this day I still study things that I know that I’m good at. It’s goes to the success principle of “sharpening the saw” – or honing your skills. This list has books, audios, and videos that can greatly improve your public speaking skills. Continue reading →
When it comes to public speaking, there’s usually two types of people:
Those who LOVE it
Those who HATE it
I know that hate is a strong word but I think it’s an appropriate description of those who have a fear of public speaking. For the majority of people the latter is true. There’s a lot that you can do to work on your fear: deep breathing exercises, practice, hypnosis, etc. However, what if you’re still not at the level you want to be but still have to give a speech or presentation? Continue reading →
“It takes longer to say “I can’t” than “I can”. Get in the habit of saying “I can” and save yourself some time.”
I’m not sure where this came from. I heard someone mention it the other day and I LOVED IT! This is a great attitude-checking statement. When it comes to public speaking and feeling like you can’t do it because you’re afraid, think to yourself “I CAN do this!”. Keep that positive mental image. Even if you don’t truly believe it … yet. This goes to the adage “fake it until you make it”. If you can keep telling yourself that you CAN do it, then you will be able to at some point. Just keep trying.
“If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
– Andrew Carnegie
For those of you unfamiliar with who Andrew Carnegie was, he was a self made millionaire who built his fortune primarily in the steel industry in the late 19th and early 20th century. I like this quote because it remind us that sitting around and simply reading about something doesn’t really help us. In the case of fearing public speaking, it holds true even more.
I am a big believer in “immersion therapy”. The idea is that you overcome the thing you fear by continually facing it. With people who are afraid of public speaking, this can be a daunting task. The catch-22 is that you’re afraid to speak so you don’t get up to speak. By not getting up to speak you never gain any confidence from facing your fear. You can’t overcome your fear if you don’t face it so you stay afraid. And now we’re back to not speaking because you are afraid.
Try to find small ways to face your public speaking fear everyday. Try talking to everyone you meet: clerks at the grocery store, someone standing next to you in an elevator, etc. You will find that the more you talk to people everyday, the more confident you will become. Higher confidence will lead to a stronger will to overcome your fear. That could lead to being able to get up and speak. The more you get up to speak the more confident you will become. And now the catch-22 is in your FAVOR!